week 6 Blog

 I was involved in training on Sexual Abuse and we were put into several different groups to complete assignments. I was really glad to be in the group that I was in because it consisted of veteran social workers, new social workers, and some workers who were no longer working in Investigative CPS.  This group was hard for me to leave because the group gave everyone a chance to speak, their opinion was welcomed and respected.

On the other hand the second group I was in was the easiest to leave because we had an individual who wanted to control the group and who was very negative in their conversation in regard to families and children. I was really que4stioning why they chose the social work field.

In regard to how I will adjourn form the group of colleagues I have formed while working on my master’s degree in this program. I will simply say goodbye and let the student know it was nice working with them.

Conflicat resolution Week Five

 Conflict Week 5

 In preparing for this assignment I was thinking about all the issues that I may be experiences on my job, at home, and my personal relationships.  I chose to discuss communication with my children. I have an 11, 15, and 20 year old. The older children are girls and the youngest is a boy. My 15 year old and I seem to be having communication issues. I know she is a teenager now and thinks she has all the answers, but sometimes she and I do not communicate very well.  She and I were having a disagreement about her attitude and how it was not good. She became very defensive and so did I. I felt that I am your mother and you will respect me. I have found that I have to use a different approach with her.

I feel that the Three R’S can help me in communicating with her. As adults we don’t always feel that children should be respected but they are humans as well they also deserve a sense of respect.  I have learned that yelling and screaming does not work with her.

I feel that I need to work on my tone of voice because sometimes individuals think I am yelling or mad when I am simply stating my position and not mad. This assignment has really opened my eyes on how to effectively communicate with other and how important it is.

Self Evaluation

Self Evaluation/Communicator.

I evaluated myself as a confident, straight forward communicator while other saw me as intimidating, confident, and  some even arrogant.  As a Child Protective Service Worker I talk with individuals all the time and I always have to watch my tone, my listening skills as well as  my facial expressions.

In regards to what I learned about Communication this week I learned that you can not always judge a book by its cover, and also judgments can wait.

My verbal score was 64 and that meant that I maintain good balance when it comes to respect and consideration for others. I also have the ability to fight fair by attacking the issue not the individual.

My Communication score was 48 and the results stated that I feel uneasy in come communications situations and confident in other situations, and I do not worry about communication very much.

I allowed a family member and a friend to take the assessments as well and they scored me in similar ranges but stated that they did find me to be a bit intimidating.

COMMUNICATION WEEK 3

Communicating Differently

 As a Child Protective Social Worker I have often found my self communicating differently with people who are not from my culture or group. I feel that I do this because I am trying to show the family that I can communicate on their level. Sometimes this is hard when you have families who try to manipulate you with their threats of who they know, how much they know, and tell you How DSS needs to do their job and get out of their life.

The ways I communicate different is my tone, my body language, posture, my eye contact, and the words I use to communicate with the family. As we all know all of our families are not as educated as we are so we must communicate at a level they can understand.

Also when I am dealing with a family who has a different culture than that of the US I tried to understand why they do what they do, what is important to them and what is not. In some cultures eye contact is considered disrespectful so we must be careful of that.

Television Show

 I watch the television show “Scandal”. This is a show I barely watch because I have heard so much negativity about it. So I chose not to watch it. The episode it which I did watch had to do Olivia meeting a guy that seemed to be really interested in her and her in him. Through out the episode  Olivia’s new found Lover continuously met with a gentleman who I  thought was trying to have Olivia killed  or something.

After watching the movie with the sound I realized that the new Lover in Olivia’s life was paid to meet her by her father and was also being watched in order to be killed. I think the only misconceptions  I had about the  non verbal cues were who her father was in the beginning. I thought he was just another disgruntle client wanting her dead.

Week 1 EDUC 6165 Communication

For your blog this week, think of someone (e.g., family member, celebrity, politician, friend, or professor) who demonstrates competent communication within a particular context. What behaviors does this person exhibit that make him or her effective? Would you want to model some of your own communication behaviors after this person? Why or why not?

I would have to chose my mother for this weeks blog. The reason why I would chose her is because she is a women who has shown me what it means to live life as a true christian. She is humble, loving, helping, meek, and all the things that Christ requires us to be.  Sure she makes mistakes, but I can honestly say I have seen her love her enemies in spite of  what they have done to her, help those who have persecuted her and help those who are in  need. So I would love to  model her meek spirit in communicating  with others. I realize that I have a strong tone and sometimes that tone is taken out of context and it is also seen as intimidating, but I do not mean for it to be.   

Week 8

When it comes to working with children and their families I feel that it is important that as an educator you are able to build a  respectful, educational, diverse relationship with them. As educators we must realize that not all children are the same. We must also treat children fairly and not mistreat those who may have a little more issues than others.

I feel that that educators should be advocates for the children that they teach.
I have enjoyed reading everyone's post and I wish you all the best in your educational endeavors